I said this the other day, and someone felt the need to say they also can’t do things because they don’t have a lot of money, but that’s not the same thing.

We were talking about going on holiday, which they are able to do every so often and by holiday I mean going abroad.

They seemed insulted I suggested that this was something I would never be able to do as a disabled person, for several reasons including money. They had to insist that they also had money problems, which is a fair statement, but they still have the money to go on holiday.

This is something that isn’t even on my radar as a possibility. It’s far more complex as a disabled person, and costs money I don’t have and am unable to earn due to my disability.

If someone is telling you something is hard for them, it’s not your job to say it would also be difficult for you. This doesn’t mean you can’t share your own story to sympathise with them and show understanding, but this is not the same as going, what about me.