Incontinence can be a real treat if you know what I mean. And sometimes I can be incredible unlucky and have issue multiple days in a row, which unfortunately creates a lot of washing, for obvious reasons.
Now I’m not the one that does my washing. In theory I could do some of it, with our current set up. But I would not be able to do a full load of washing, this is currently completely impossible for me to do, due to inaccessibility in my house.
However, even if my house is more accessible in this area, it doesn’t mean that I would be able to complete a full load of washing. I don’t have a physical energy and strength required to do so on a regular basis. And unfortunately, I definitely do not have the strength and energy to keep up with the washing that I produce.
What I’m saying, is that regardless of my set up, I would always be relying on someone else to do my washing. Which leads me to the same problem, I have with needing to be reliant on others to do things for me. I’m relying on them doing it the way they’re going to do it. And I can’t really complain about it.
This is a common occurrence for anyone that is regularly relying on others for help. If you get lucky, you are sometimes able to ask people to do things a certain way for you. But the chances of this happening with regular everyday tasks is unlikely and definitely not possible for me. It actually risks me having any help at all. If I argued every time something wasn’t done the way I wanted to.
Sometimes you have to pick your battles. When you need a lot of help you have to pick your battles a lot of the time.
To anyone that doesn’t need a lot help, this might sound horrible and ungrateful. And in all honesty, I understand where you’re coming from with this opinion. But I have to say you’re wrong.
When you need a lot of help the only way you can get any say or control in your life is by specifying questioning how that help is done. Can you imagine if you didn’t get to say anything that goes on in your life? How difficult that would be to deal with emotionally. That’s what people need help a lot of the time, myself included, are stuck dealing with.
It’s a balance of control, and gratefulness. And the gratefulness gets old.
It’s not that I’m not grateful, it’s the being grateful all the time it gets old quickly. h
I hope you understand where I’m coming from and it doesn’t sound too horrible.