This is the message that I often send to the person I live with in the middle of the night to see if they’re awake.
I’m in a position where if it was an emergency, I would be able to ring them if I needed them. But there are some things that just isn’t fair for me to wake them up in the middle of the night. I’ve made a list of exceptions to only messaging them once it gets past 12 o’clock at night.
This list is short. It only includes whether I am falling out of bed in anyway or if I have dropped my bed control. I would hope that it is obvious why I would need to call for help if I was falling out of bed. While I have never fallen out of bed, well not since I was a young child and used to throw myself out to bed in order to get my parents attention. I have had my leg fall out of bed and been unable to get it back into the bed myself, this is when I call for help. The reason dropping my bed control is on the list of acceptable reasons to call for help after midnight is because I’m unable to sleep if I cannot move the position my bed is in. It causes me a lot of pain to not be able to change my position when in bed, particularly if I am stuck lying flat. It isn’t as bad if I am sat up pain wise, it’s just incredibly difficult if not impossible for me to sleep.
I’m writing this post now because I’ve just had to message them in order to see if they were awake, thankfully they were. This means that I can get the help I needed, which while it wasn’t vital it is going to help me to be more comfortable for the night. The time it was the position of my electric blanket that was bothering me, not something worth waking them for, but still a relief to have fixed.
For reasons I do not understand I need to have the same fabric on each foot or it’ll really irritate me. Preferably it’s my electric blanket as the heat also helps me with pain, but as long as it’s the same I’m comfortable ish.
Now I have my electric blanket over each foot and leg, but I’m trying to debate whether the pain is bad enough that I need to put it on. Really I should have asked her to pass me my fan as well, so I can have it on without overheating, but I forgot.
That can be one of the most frustrating things about needing so much help, is I can only have help on there say so. And to keep things comfortable between us I have to try to remember everything I need help with all at once.
But before you think the person I live with is horrible, they never actually said this to me. It’s just what I have picked up after a lifetime of needing help from others. I have to need help as little as possible and make it as easy for them to help me as it is possible. It’s probably me really, somewhere in my brain that says that. I can’t ever actually remember being told this, it’s just what I’ve always believed. I’m trying to not think too hard on why that might be.
My sleep is shocking at the moment, I feel like I’m going from no sleep to too much sleep with nothing in between. And no matter which I get, my fatigue is till the same. I’m still at the very least tired, most of the time exhausted. I often joke that I was born tired. I don’t remember ever going more than a few hours without being tired in the day.
But when my sleep schedule is better I’m able to push myself to do things and have a bit of a life. I’ve got upcoming plans that my current sleep schedule is going to make very difficult and I’m honestly concerned. But that’s just life for me.
I end up putting off plans where I can do I can sleep in the day, even though I know that doesn’t help me. I don’t want to let people down by doing things when I’m just too exhausted to pay attention, I would rather cancel.
The idea of going out of the house is rarely appealing to me. But when the fatigue steps up to the level it currently is and my sleep pattern is rubbish, it’s even harder for me to want to do anything. Having the dogs and things I can’t cancel without a lot of guilt help. But I also just have to wait until this passes, until things right themselves.
But right now I’m sat it’s 3am and I’m only now just getting tired. I have the chance of plans tomorrow but I’m honestly debating whether to cancel or not so I can just sleep some more. I know it’s not nice and I should just go out. But I just don’t want to, at least I think I don’t want to. I guess I’ll decide tomorrow what I’ll do.
I hope you’re not awake at 3am if you’re reading this.