Wheelchairs do not move sideways.

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COMIC STRIP
A Day in the Life of a PWD (Person With a Disability)

Frame 1:
A wheelchair user is traveling down a sidewalk. A man and woman are walking towards her.

Frame 2:
As the wheelchair user approaches, the man steps to the side but the woman doesn’t.

Frame 3:
The woman almost walks into the wheelchair user, and is startled.
WOMAN: Oops…I didn’t see you there!

Frame 4:
They all continue on their ways.
WHEELCHAIR USER (thinking):
What am I? Invisible?!

Backdated post. I’m making a half hearted attempt to keep this blog sort of going, and keep my streak.

I’m Sorry.

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Image Description: White text on a black and gold background, the text is in capital letters and reads “Taking a break”.

I don’t know how long I’ll be away, but I just can’t right now. Sorry.

I haven’t decided if I’ll include more generic posts to keep my streak but I honestly doubt it right now.

Not being the easy option.

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What bothers you and why?

Take now as I start this post, I am on a bus, and the people I’m with decided to go sit at the back. I know there are supposed to be the better seats on the bus, but I can only sit in one place on the bus, and there were seats near me when we got on, I’d be lying if I said their choice doesn’t bother me. How can it not?

They could have chosen to sit with me, but they didn’t. And every little time someone makes this choice, it reinforces what I think I’ve always known, I’m not more important than the better option.

My disability is an inconvenience to them, to be honest, it is to me as well, but I can’t escape it. They can though, and worse than that, they choose to. I don’t know if it’s made better or worse by the fact I can’t blame them though.

I just wish society made being with me the easier option.

What a claim it is to know something is definitely true.

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List 10 things you know to be absolutely certain.

I’m a person who definitely believes that most things in life are subjective. I said most things because I am aware that there are often exceptions to a statement like this. That said I’m going to give this writing prompt a go:

  • Disability is a matter of when not if, one day it will be you, unless you die first.
  • Whether others view you as disabled or not, will have a massive impact on your life, whether you are disabled or not.
  • Disability / Disabled is not a bad word.
  • Confidence is half the battle, except from when dealing with stairs.
  • People will always judge you for doing what you enjoy, so long as it doesn’t hurt anyone, do it anyway.
  • Sex has no relation to your value as a person.
  • Money doesn’t solve all the problems in the world, but it would make a lot of them easier.
  • How important something is, is relative to the person. Just because you don’t understand why something is important, doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter. It cannot matter to you, and still matter to them.
  • That said, your faith is about you not other people.  You can live by whatever rules you want,  so long as they don’t hurt others,  but you can’t force others to live by your rules.
  • Everyone is important. “In 900 years of space and time I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t important before.” – 11th Doctor.

I know that many of these are about disability, and that’s because disability restated things are currently on my mind. Maybe that has something to do with it being Disability Pride Month, or more likely it’s just because I’m disabled, so these things are always important to me.

Whatever the reasoning behind the focus of the list, everything I’ve said is true. And you’ve got to love when you’re able to get a Doctor Who quote in to something and it still makes perfect sense, that’s just a double win.

Do you have any objections to anything I’ve included on the list? I’d love to know what you think.

If you wear glasses you are Disabled.

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The Definition of a Disability is: a physical or mental condition that limits a person’s movements, senses, or activities.

Those who wear glasses have some form of limitation to there sight, they are technically disabled. It’s simply that society has accepted the mobility aid that they use, glasses.

This is interesting as it shows the way society has accepted some disabilities, in a way that doesn’t continue to exclude them. It is completely normal for someone to wear glasses. I wonder how people would react to disability if it was normalised this way.

One day I hope that all disabilities and disability aids are accepted the way that wearing glasses is. This will be the true inclusion of those with disabilities in society 

I have more I want to say on this. I might but as always I make no promises. This might help though if I don’t end up saying more.

Dinner ?

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If you could host a dinner and anyone you invite was sure to come, who would you invite?

Damn. I take these questions way too seriously.

Erm. My mum.

Seriously.

But celebrity wise which I’m sure is what this actually means. I would absolutely love to have dinner with John Barrowman. I love him as a person and in Doctor Who as Jack. I also think he wouldn’t care when I inevitably spill food on myself.

To be honest this question was harder to answer than I thought it would be.

If you say it, you should mean it.

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So floating around on the disability areas of social media today has been a question to the effect of “What is your worst experience of exclusion?”, so I figured for todays post I will answer that again here.

For me my worst experiences of exclusion are failed promises of inclusion. Now I know sometimes this can be more difficult to accomplish, but more than once it’s been easier and they’ve still failed. The part you have to really understand is whether I should or not, I don’t expect to be included in things. The truth is, exclusion is and probably always will be, my norm. I don’t expect an invite to the party. So why dangle the invite in front of me, if you have no intention of putting the work in?

Seriously, why are you doing that to me? To anyone?

If you genionely want to put in the work to include someone with a disability in something, then put in the work. I really don’t think this is to much to ask. And if it genuinely falls through, after you tried, then tell us. Don’t just ignore us, and think we forgot.

From experience, when you’re not used to the invite and you finally get it, it’s not something you’re going to forget. In fact you are probably going to hold on to it more than others, you will not forget. I certainly did not. I really looked forward to going to this party, and they said they’d find a way for me to be included, and then they just didn’t. I don’t even know if the party happened, I presuming that it did, because why wouldn’t it? But the basically just cut me off and stopped mentioning it. I honestly don’t know why.

Just tell disabled people the truth. We deserve that at least.

So go on then, if you find yourself reading this and you feel like answering – What is your worst experience of exclusion?”

How much is to much?

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It depends who you ask I suppose.

But it seems like the act of mentioning issues more than once is to much for some people on the internet. So much that they have to blindly threaten me on the internet, just because they don’t like the issues I’m talking about.

It’s almost like the issues I share on my social media are persistent problems, that aren’t just going to disappear because I post about them once. Funny that, isn’t it? What really gets me is that I would also be criticised for sharing issues that were only a one off, but sharing and resharing issues is just to much.

Societal problems are persistent, and if you think people aren’t complaining about anything important, you should just be glad that they’re not problems you have to deal with. That for now, the issues are distant enough, to be something that you see strangers talking about on the internet.

One day the silly little problems will be your problems. Disability is a matter of if, not when. It will be you one day. You should really care about disability issues, because one day they will effect you. But even if that isn’t enough of a reason, you can just leave the people you don’t agree with alone. If you don’t like it, scroll.

Anyway, to the person that left that comment, thank you. You not only made me laugh, but gave me content both for my other social media platforms as well as this blog.