Category: Old Topics

Older topics I have written about that will no longer be added to, but can be read about, such as those specific to holidays, and years.

Honestly at the minute when I write on this blog.

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When do you feel most productive?

I don’t know if that’s sad or not.

But it really does feel like this blog is the only thing I can do for myself right now. That might sound a little buzzard, but I think it’s the fact that I get to fully control what’s on this blog. There’s not many things I get full control of in my life. So I hold on to what I have.

I am aware that I’ve said similar things on this blog before, but at least you know I’m telling the truth.

A metaphor about sex

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Ready for a long ace-centric metaphor about sex? Alright, so. Coffee. I don’t drink coffee. I have no desire to drink coffee. I find people who enthusiastically go on about the flavor differences of lattes, espressos, and french press brews, both amusing and mildly baffling. All the coffee ads. Coffee jokes. Bustling coffee shops. To me, all coffee is similarly bitter and unpleasant. I have been through so many “Try this, it’s sweet! You can’t even taste the coffee!” Alas, I always can. And I’m sensitive to caffeine anyway. So, I don’t really think about drinking it when I wake up or am tired.
Yet I love the smell of coffee. I love the idea of coffee. The feeling of a warm cup taking the chill from my fingers, the cozy ritual of having a drink and chat. I might try someone’s coffee. If they ask, if I want to please them and share in something they enjoy. I am also perfectly capable of learning the preferences of those I care about and creating a cup for their pleasure.”

There are many different metaphors for understanding Asexuality. Feel free to share any you have.

The more we understand each other the better.

Happy Ace Week 🖤🤍🩶💜

Disability and Asexuality ♿️🖤🩶🤍💜

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When you exist as a disabled person who is Asexual, the historical infantilisation of disabled people can make Asexuality hard to navigate.

It has been said and widely believed throughout history that disabled people are not capable of experiencing sexual attraction. This is of course not true. From experience, the idea that disabled people can have anything to do with sex or intimacy is still a surprise to many.

However disabled people, like myself can still be Asexual. This does not mean that being Asexual is a disability or that all those who are disabled are Asexual.

Asexuality and Disability are simply elements of the human experience that can be experienced as an intersectionality.

My own personal experience of Asexuality and Disability are a little more complex and interwoven than this. But this is not the case for everyone.

Not all disabled people are the same.
Not all asexual people are the same.