The rules of needing help are as follows:

1. Always be grateful. 
2. It’s on there terms not yours. 
3. Say please and thank you for every little thing. 
4. Remember as much as you possibly can about the things you need help with all at once. 
5. Always be grateful. 

No one talks about the rules of needing help, they only seem to exist when you need a lot of it. That help is almost always given on the condition of those giving it, they’re doing something for you after all. If you’re lucky they’ll ask you specifically about the type of help you want, exactly where or how you want something doing. You basically have to be a god to have a say in when you get it done. You don’t get something done how you want and when you want it for free, being unable to do it yourself doesn’t matter. 

Did you know that bigger tasks are comprised of a lot of smaller tasks? Sure you want that moving, but you also need to know what you going to do with the other thing you need to move out of the way to put it where you want. They’ll have to move that as well, and deal with the rubbish. Get ready to be thankful for each individual step. 

Even if it’s there job, to do the same things they’ve been coming to do daily, watch they don’t randomly want a thank you out of nowhere to make themselves feel good. Give it anyway, just in case. I know this sounds a little extra, but think about needing help for a lot of things and having to thank someone every time, I promise you it gets old fast. It’s not that I’m not grateful, it’s that everything becomes something someone else is doing for me I remind them of it, my existence becomes about others helping me. 

On that note, remembering that others are helping me, means I go out of my way to try and remember all the things I need help with at once. This makes it easier for them to help me, and makes sure I get all the help I need. But if I’m honest with myself it’s more about the first part than the second part. No asking someone for something when they’ve just sat down, even if that’s when you remember. Side note though, don’t ask them for to much, then you’re just being to needy, it’s up to you to find the right balance there. 

And lastly, again, always be grateful. No one wants to help people that are ungrateful, and when you need a lot of help you have to be nice enough so people want to do it. You’re the one that suffers if they don’t, if they just decide to say no. Don’t risk it.