And I’m not sure that will ever stop surprising me.

Tonight I let the carers in myself, as I do periodically. These were carers that hadn’t been before when I had been in on my own. and so they were very surprised.

They kept saying that it was good for my independence. But I honestly don’t like them judging my independence, and praising me for what they think is a positive step.

To me a big part of my independence is relying on others, it is being able to ask for the help that I need when I need it. As this is something I have always struggled with.

It’s important to remember that independence is different to everyone, and that despite what the word may mean, it doesn’t just mean doing things on your own.

Additionally it’s not helpful to praise disabled people for doing things that non disabled people do all the time, like opening their front door independently. This is how inspiration porn starts.

It honestly gets old that people are so impressed with me living my life. I didn’t ask for their input and I really wish they wouldn’t give it me. You would think that carers in particular would know better.

Just keep your comments about people living their lives to yourself.