Being disabled can be about giving up more than just the obvious freedoms of life. Sometimes you have to give up so those that care for you can have the freedom, they deserve as well.

Tonight and tomorrow night, the person that cares for me, has plans to go out. so they’re able to do what they want. I’ve had to cancel my cares calls for both of these nights. this means spending 24 hours without getting changed for two days in a row. I will be able to get changed in the morning however.

If I didn’t cancel these calls, then she wouldn’t be able to go out, it’s not fair on her if she never gets some fun.

To be fair, the reason that I’ve had to cancel, my call is more about my babies than me. I struggle to look after the dogs on my own for Carer visits. this is because they need to be shut away for the carers to do their job, and I can’t do this very easily on my own, particularly with my larger dog. I can have them away in advance of the call, but she wanted to go out early which would mean and them being shut away for hours, and then hours after the call until she arrived home again. This course isn’t fair. So I chose to cancel my call instead.

They’re worth it. I don’t regret giving up my call. But it does make me uncomfortable. I can see why some people would question why I would have dogs if they make things this complicated for me. But nights like this don’t happen often. And I would much rather have them than not. They’re my world.

Sometimes you have to give up things to be included when you disabled. And honestly, this happens more often than you might think. But sometimes like tonight, it’s worth it.