The other day, one of my carers said, I always believe I’m right, and she is right most of the time I do believe I am right, especially when it comes to things about my personal care, physical, well-being and health. Don’t get me wrong, I will take on the advice of others, but generally I believe I know what I’m doing with my own body.

The way this carer phrased it was as if this was a bad thing, I don’t think it was. She tried to say that she’s been a career for a long time and that means that she knew me doing something a certain way would be best. I told her that I have been disabled for a long time and I know how my body works.

While this conversation made me uncomfortable I don’t think I’m wrong to say I know best for me. While they may know certain things about caring in general, they don’t know my personal situation better than I do.

I really don’t think it’s bad that I trust myself enough to think I’m right a lot of the time. In fact I think that it’s very important that I believe in myself enough to know that I am right about things. There was a time when I didn’t have anywhere near enough confidence in myself to believe in myself. It took time to trust I was right, and I don’t want to feel bad about it.

Honestly I think carers need to remember that caring for people doesn’t give them the same experience as living with a condition. It might not be my job, but it is my life.