Much like the position I am in with the school reunion I have written about in a previous post, I don’t know a lot about the specifics of a family gathering that I was kind of invited to recently.

I say kind of because the specifics of the meeting were never decided, and I was quite clearly added as a second thought. We must invite her, that type of thing.

But when you’re disabled you can’t be invited to things as a second thought, they probably won’t be accessible. This I can tell you from experience, but I mean no malice. It’s just a fact that true accessibility cannot be an afterthought.

If I were to go to this family event, I would have to not get changed for the entire time I was there, we are talking more than 24 hours. This is not unusual for me to do in order to stay anywhere else other than my home but is something I am reasonably certain in saying that non-disabled people would be shocked to learn the specifics of.

The truth is if I don’t make sacrifices and do things that might seem weird to others, I would be excluded even more from the things which I want to experience.